Mr. Stephen P. "Steve" Marchitelli

UTICA - Mr. Stephen P. “Steve” Marchitelli, age 79, passed away unexpectedly after a brief illness on Saturday, November 9, 2019 in the arms of his wife, in the comfort of their home. Born in Allentown, Pennsylvania on February 25, 1940, Stephen was the son of the late Frank S. and Jenny (Bilardone) Marchitelli. He was raised in Utica and was a graduate of T.R. Proctor High School/Class of 1958. A proud veteran of the United States Army, he honorably served his country as a Military Policeman stationed at Fort Dix in New Jersey. On May 21, 1960 he married the former Arlene A. Jones with whom he shared 59 years as constant companions in a blessed union. He was truly dedicated to her, and she loved him unconditionally. She was his queen and his first love. Steve was a hard-working man and a certified welder. He worked at H.J. Brandeles Corporation for many years. His union affiliation was with the Plumbers & Pipe Fitters Local #112, formerly Local #79 where he served on the Executive Board. He was also a welding instructor. Steve’s love for his profession was passed down to his sons-in-law and grandson, Billy, and they were grateful to follow in his footsteps and masterful skills. He retired after 48 years of service. His vocation was his second love, and he was proud of his craft. Steve had a dry sense of humor which was received with laughter and sometimes a bit of question! He commanded respect, loyalty, and responsibility to family, virtues that he asked those he loved to uphold. He was a man of his word and he expected others to behave in the same manner. He strived for perfection and he knew the rules of etiquette to a tee. He taught his daughters that education was paramount as a means to stand on their own and remain independent. He was a protective patriarch, and the girls valued his advice about choosing a young man during their dating days. His wife found him to be truly dependable, his daughters knew he was reliable, and his grandchildren adored him and loved to hear his stories. And, …he finally got his grandsons! A car enthusiast, Steve frequented car shows and kept his own vehicles in immaculate condition. As a matter of fact, he was meticulous in all aspects of life, including his appearance, attire, and the standards he lived by. The 4th of July week was always dedicated to family togetherness in the Adirondacks where they shared so much fun, sitting around a campfire sharing stories of years past. He was the “camp cop” and he kept things in line. Steve was grateful that he raised a family that remained close to home and him, a testament to family loyalty, and he was proud of their accomplishments. Steve was a member of the American Legion Whitestown Post #1113, and his faith was a priority to him. He practiced his Catholic creed at St. Anthony & St. Agnes Church. Steve is survived by his adored wife, Arlene; his daughters and sons-in-law, Lynne Anne and Brian Toussaint, Laurie Anne Flagg and Jim Vincent, Leslie Anne and Gaetano Spina, and Stephanie Anne Madia and Tom Conte. He never forgot and always remembered each day of his life, the loss of his daughter, Lisa Anne Marchitelli, who passed away on February 2, 2012; they are now together again. He loved to be with his grandchildren and participate in the important events in their life: Brianne Ashley and Frank Talarico, and Shane Patrick Toussaint; William Stephen “Billy” and Megan Flagg, Cara Jenny Flagg and Rick Mergenthaler, and their dad Bill Flagg Sr.; Gaetano “Nino” Spina, Jake Stephen Spina who was “Papa Steve’s clone;” Ciara Lynne Madia, Jordan Jeffrey Madia, and their dad Jeff Madia. He also leaves his sister, Antonia Fusco; cherished cousins, extended family, and longtime friends, with special mention of Phil “Phibby” and Carol Scampone, Butch and Kathy Ventura, and a lifetime of friendships. He treasured the memory of his friend, Dennis Falange, in his heart. He was predeceased by his father-in-law and mother-in-law, Francis “Butch” and Amelia Jones; and his brother-in-law, Michael Fusco. The family will honor and commemorate Steve’s life at a private time. Relatives and friends are respectfully invited to attend Stephen’s funeral service and Celebration of Life which will commence on Friday afternoon at 1:30 at St. Anthony & St. Agnes Church where his Mass of Christian Burial will be offered. The family will receive visitors at the conclusion of Mass. Expressions of sympathy in the form of donations may be directed to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital online at https://www.stjude.org. Envelopes will also be available at the service. Interment will take place in St. Agnes Cemetery at the convenience of the family.

Mr. Stephen P. "Steve" Marchitelli

February 25, 1940 - November 9, 2019